July 14th, 2008 | No Comments »

everyone has friends who, for good or for worse come in and out of their lives. i’ve a few friends who when i was in highschool were extermely close but as time goes on, we grew apart - we may have kept in touch sporadically, but nothing consistent past adulthood. technology served as a great medium to talk, but not talk. everyone sort of kept tabs on each other by sending forwards, and not really talking about anything of substance…

that now brings me back to present day.

after we said our vows, and the proverbial dust has ssettled, i sent out some emails to those i didn’t have a chance to call or text (or those who i probably didn’t want to speak to to break the iceor whatever. anyway…i did send the same email to two friends that fall into that category. i’m not sure what i really expected, but for the most part, i received emails of congratulations and just general acknowledgement. and ostensibly absent were replies from two i expected to hear almost immediately from. i’m not sure whether i was angry, upset, or just disappointed. i’m not so sure that i’ve had any right to feel any of those feelings…but i suppose there is just a little bit of of something that says well, fine…if you don’t want to talk to me, i don’t want to talk to you either…

does that make sense? so anyway, as i’ve griped about it all this morning, lo and behold, this afternoon, i received an email back from one of the friends…maybe it’s a way to tell me that someone just wanted me to have patience…don’t know…being stupid i suppose…or maybe just a girl…lol

~ciao

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July 8th, 2008 | No Comments »

seeing that california followed the footsteps of mass and approved of gay marriage. for those conservatives saying that the world will come to an end…i’m still waiting.

i still can’t understand why they are preventing us from being as miserable as the rest of the heterosexual community. think about it…how miserable a lot of married people are…why wouldn’t you want to share that misery? so, i’ve been part of the community that’s apparently been exempt from feeling the misery of married bliss?

that’s just stupid…

so in defiance to all those people who says i can’t do something…alexis and i were married in a civil ceremony in san francisco on 6/20. shach was the witness on record, along with maneesh…as a wedding present, they also got us a night at the ritz. it was incredible, and absolutely amazing. we spent the rest of the time in cali hanging out, and visiting with friends and just generally be at peace. it wasn’t a planned event, not in my conventional way. we did it almost as a spur of a moment thing…but it was something we had always spoken about…to have a ceremony (how ever simple) - and pledge ourselves to each other. so talk about being at the right place, at the right time.

it honestly was the most pleasant experience we’ve ever had in a city agency. everyone was pleasant, happy, and beyond helpful. we were in and out of cityhall within an hour…nerve wrecking yes…difficult no.

so, we’re married…yay!!

okay, that’s all for now…

~ciao

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