con·sid·er·ation -
1 : continuous and careful thought
2 a : a matter weighed or taken into account when formulating an opinion or plan
3 : thoughtful and sympathetic regard
4 : an opinion obtained by reflection
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and now that we’ve defined this word…let’s talk about what consideration really means…
consideration means practice what you preach…
consideration means think about how the other person would feel before you say anything
consideration means not to air your dirty laundry in a public forum…
having said that…i’d like to clear the air about a few things…
…for those of us who are involved in this relationship…it’s something that was agreed upon between consenting adults. nobody twisted arms, put a gun to vital organs…so in that respect, get over it. no one’s at fault…problems arise in a long term relationship. if you’re blinded to it, then it’s no one’s fault but your own. what happened in the relationship had nothing to do with what happened subsequent…so again i say to that…get over it. you fucked up, you deal with the consequences. cheating is cheating.
okay, let’s go beyond that…about what i write…what i write is for public consumption…if you don’t like what i write, dont’ read it…if it becomes too personal, too painful…dont’ read it…i’m not asking anyone to read this…i only care that the person i’m writing to understands.
i understand that to get to where i am right now, there are casualties…and i truly apologize for those involved and was hurt…but you know what, life goes on…i apologize to my exgf of what i did…but i submit to you…would you rather i have cheated then broke it off?
so you want to air dirty laundry, let’s play…name the forum…
the internet affords us anonymity so real names do not have to be used…but apparently that concept is lost on certain people…focus on the big picture here people…you want to gripe, go ahead…no one is stopping you…but for fuck sakes…use your brain…common sense…don’t be dumb…there will be people to cloud judgements but you realize who you are…
this may be fueling the fire of a melodrama that’s happening elsewhere…and for those who are lost…dont’ worry about it…it’s a long story…pull up a chair and i’m sure someone will tell you…
steph